Let's Simplify Our Lives

Response to - Here's Why The Term Plus Size Is Problematic The Larger Issue - Elle - https://elle.in/article/heres-why-the-term-plus-size-is-problematic/

It's very simple folks, XS, S, M, L, XL, XXL, XXXL, etc...that way no one is offended and it is what it is when you purchase clothing and if you are an XL with one type of style or designer and only an L or XXL in another style, who cares? That was easy!!!!!!!!

But, everyone needs to stop describing women of "different body types" because your body type has nothing to do with your size!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It should read or be "women of different sizes" - because that's exactly what it is and there is nothing wrong with that...

However, I follow and study all that is related to women when it comes to self-image and body issues and everyone needs to stop featuring articles or mention (all the clothing designers and women's websites are guilty of this) "these jeans bring out your best features" or this dress "streamlines your body" or for "high-waisted busty women, this will make you appear more curvy". Because, if you, the media or organization is promoting "body positivity" and telling everyone that "it doesn't matter what you weigh or what dress size you wear" why then are you telling a woman what type of dress to wear to look better in?????

Another faux pas is when you see or read an article on line that headlines "so-and-so rocks in this bathing suit with her toned and slim legs" (and these are the very same websites/firms that "promote" all sizes are equal...Really????? It's funny, I never see a large or extra large individual being featured with these headlines and if it is, it is only a model/actress/celebrity with a perfect face, fyi...

If I were a women, I would be very devastated if I saw an article that says she rocks it with her trim legs because that is telling me that unless I or every other woman who does not have trim legs "cannot rock it"...

Women and men alike will always want to look and feel better in clothes and - without them - and guess what, there is nothing wrong with that. The problem with this entire body positivity movement is that women are now shunned or are frowned upon if they want to get in better shape and/or lose weight. And then when they do, the media tries to downplay the weight loss aspect by saying that they did it for health reasons. Hey, who cares WHY someone wants to make changes with their body??? As that is their personal business, not yours or ours.

Also, there is a difference between a women's self-confidence, self-esteem, body positivity and how she judges or feels about her body in its current state...Women are beautiful at all times, and because of a plethora of reasons, many women because of genetics, just being a woman, medical reasons or issues, menopause, pregnancy, stress, depression, a relationship that ends (good or badly), etc...can gain weight without even trying but, that doesn't mean if she wants to improve herself in any endeavor; education, career, becoming a better mother, doing pro-bono work that she has to "explain" herself and her actions - so if everyone wants to be on even par - despite what dress size one wears, focus on the journey and the benefits that she personally is receiving from her efforts and if one of those benefits she states is that she just wanted to lose weight because she did not like her size, so be it and that is wonderful...

Founder & CEO of Exude Fitness
As an author, Edward has written seven books in the motivational fitness, weight loss/golf vocations including the best-selling Escape Your Shape.